Choosing Romance or Friendship
When you meet someone new, maybe you know if you want romance or friendship, but if you don’t, how will you know? If you don’t know before you enter into the relationship, you probably won’t know afterwards, either—at least not right away. That isn’t a bad thing, however; you need to develop a friendship before you develop a romance in order to get to know the person you are dating. In most cases, going straight from not know them to dating them romantically prevents the natural flow of friendship development that is important to insure that the relationship gets off to the right start.
Sometimes it’s a difficult move to make, especially if you have been alone, and you want someone in your life, but the transition from single to romantic involvement is not always the right choice to make. It’s more important to get to know someone and be sure that person is the kind of person you want to date before you develop a full-blown romance that later goes belly up. The worst that will happen is you will have the company of another male or female friend if the meeting doesn’t develop beyond the friendship stage. It’s important to remember some people make better friends than lovers, and if the vibes aren’t there for romance, go with the friendship.
The reality is that you don’t have to choose one or the other. Meet different people, get to know them, and let nature take its course and lead you in the right direction if and when the time comes. Not everyone is dating material, so it isn’t necessary to look at it that way. You can even take your male or female friend and go places without having to be committed. Enjoy what you have and let the cards fall where they may.
