How to Deal with a Jealous Ex
Many people have had the problem of dealing with a jealous ex, whether it’s a spouse or boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s more difficult when you have moved forward into another relationship and your ex hasn’t. What do you do if he shows up at your home while you’re there with your new love interest? It’s easy enough to tell him or her to go, but what if they refuse? It’s a very sensitive situation because you know this could cause your new relationship to do a belly flop. As sad as it may be, the easiest way is to tell him or her that you have company and to please leave. If your request isn’t followed, you may have no alternative but to call the police to have him or her removed. The problem is some people cannot accept when a relationship ends, and they will do whatever they need to do in order to trying to revive what is gone. You have to be strong enough to now allow that to stand in the way of a new partner even if it means ignoring tears.
Once a relationship ends, you are no longer committed to any parts of that relationship unless there are children involved. In that case, you are committed only to paying child support (if you’re a father) and visitation. For a woman who has children from a previous marriage or relationship, your only commitment is to make sure the child(ren) have regular contact with their father and that he fulfills his financial obligation. Beyond that of children, you have no obligation to a previous marriage or relationship. Does that mean you should have no contact with his or her family even if you were close when you were together? That is something you will need to work out with the family members involved, but you may want to wait until you are sure that your ex accepts that the relationship is finished.
